Oh to be Single!Weekly Posts
1 Corinthians 7:8 “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do”
Since we are approaching Valentine’s Day, I thought it appropriate to write a post to all you single ladies (and lads) out there. No doubt there will be many people wondering why for another year they are not dating or hitched to anyone yet. I can hear all the thoughts and sighs of “Oh to be dating…oh to be married!“, but I respond to you;
“…Oh to be Single!“
Now don’t get me wrong, I love being married. Please refer to last weeks post for evidence of this. But what I am saying is that I think by pursuing marriage and other things so much, we have often missed the value of the single life.
1 Corinthians 7:38 “So the person who marries his fiancee does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better”
Reading through 1 Corinthians 7, you might think that Paul has a bee in his bonnet about being married. He says it is good to remain single, and that the single person does better than the married person. I don’t know about you, but I don’t think that is the culture we live in today, especially in the ‘Christian’ world.
It seems to me that every young Christian’s greatest desire is to get married! I know because I was one of them! Whilst dating Claire I was so impatient to get married. It seems odd to me that the very thing that Paul says is good and better, is the very thing no-one wants to remain in: The Single Life.
Why is being single ‘good’? – Why is it ‘better’?
1 Corinthians 7:32-33 “…An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided”
Paul puts it so plainly…an unmarried person is concerned solely with the Lord’s affairs, but a married person has to be concerned with his marriage too – their interests are divided.
The reason why the single life is so great, and in some ways ‘better’ than married life, is that you have undivided devotion to the Lord. It means you have more to give, more time to spare, more to sacrifice and more attention to give. Put it simply: You can serve God in a greater capacity as a single person!
Practically speaking this means you are able to give up more time to serve God, get involved in more things, join different teams etc. As a married man I have an obligation to love and care for my wife, which means spending quality time with her. Whilst this is a blessing, it is a limitation on all married people that they cannot simply do whatever they want.
1 Corinthians 7:34 “…An unmarried woman is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband”
The single life is basically a massive opportunity to throw yourself into God! Get involved in whatever you can, join any team you desire, experience more aspects of the Kingdom of God, spend more time in prayer and worship….
I’m glad that whilst I was still dating I did such things. I said yes to pretty much any opportunity that came along, I joined virtually any team I could, I spent hours with God every night just praying, thinking and reading my Bible. It was fantastic! Now that I am married I am blessed in many more ways, however I do not have the same freedom to do what I used to do.
I’m not saying that desiring to be dating or married is a bad thing. I think they are quite positive and healthy desires. What I am asking is that whilst you are not dating or married, are you making the most of the single life?